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[elfgrove]

"I may not have the right to say this, but I want to know the truth."
- Garr, Breath of Fire III

I want to know. I want to understand why people feel the way they do. Melissa asked me today to tell her maybe why she had fallen so hard for Marbee. Me. Explain emotions. Ri~ght... I don't understand them at all.
You can describe all of someone's good attributes. You can describe how good you feel when you see them. You can say it's pheremones.
But is that why you love them?
I don't think so. That's why you're attracted maybe. But when you take that cliff-side dive into the point where you've fallen in love? There's something deeper and more complex to that. And it can't be explained in terms I know. That's basically what I told her.

But I don't know. There's a difference between love and Love, and I don't know where that line is. Have I ever crossed it? Will I ever? How do you know?
People say when you fall in Love (the big L kind) you'll just know it. I don't know about that. I know I don't know. Is it that I've never hit that big L or anywhere even close to it? Because I've never not wondered if I was really in love or if it was something shallower. But honestly, I don't think it's simple enough as you'll just immedeately know. Otherwise we wouldn't spend so much time on this dating buisness.

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[reverie-shadow.livejournal.com]

Considering that I'm not that experienced in the "L" department, I know pretty much a lot about intimate human emotions.

I suppose the reason why people do fall in love is so that they don't have to be alone, so that whenever they fall they have something to hold onto, something that surpasses the "friendship" state, I guess, because if they don't, then they'll just keep falling. Yes, weird metaphore there, but its the best I can do. There are many philosophies about why people do feel these things, and the answers will always be different depending on who exactly you ask. That is what I think.

I don't run some advice collumn in the newspaper, but all I have to say to Melissa is that she better make sure that her feelings towards Marbee be as genuine as she thinks it is, otherwise she might end up hurting a very valuble friendship. I've seen this happen before and it hurts to just watch it happen, but it does.... To me its sort of weird to be dating someone who used to be my good friend...so...yeah, I dunno. Just make sure that she doesn't end up savotaging a worthwhile friendship. But then again, she's not my sister, so I don't think she'd do quite as bad a she would when it comes to relationships.

However, from what I comprehend, the difference between love and Love is that one is conditional, when someone is there to just hug you and talk you through a problem. Love is when someone is intimate, like touching hands and kissing, and when that feeling for that one person is so strong, you can see yourself seventy years from now and still together, that way, you know that you truly love someone, as well as feeling a strange ache in your heart that makes you excited and nervous all at the same time. That is my thing. I may add more to this later, though....